I almost sat through an entire green light at a busy intersection yesterday, and frankly I blame National Public Radio (NPR) yet again. No, this is not the first time an NPR story has distracted me from realizing that the light’s turned green.
And yesterday’s culprit? It was a piece called “Your Stories: The Hardest Apology You’ve Ever Given.” The Takeaway’s host, John Hockenberry, was weaving together listeners’ recorded tales of apologies.
As you can imagine, their stories were compelling. “So, “ I asked myself, “if giving forgiveness takes spiritual courage, isn’t apologizing and asking for forgiveness even harder?”
I’m pretty sure my reaction was rooted in my empathic awe for the openness and courage of the storytellers, and not some ego need to rank order aspects of redemption. The vulnerability and courage these storytellers shared was both palpable and admirable.
The work we do in the Akashic Records often includes forgiveness of self and others. As hard as it can be, when we forgive, we set ourselves free of the pain we carrying about an incident and the person(s) involved. Ultimately, and perhaps ironically, forgiveness is essentially and healthfully a selfish act.
As someone who facilitates Akashic sessions for others, I’ve had the honor of witnessing the power and healing forgiveness sparks – and listening to the radio yesterday was much like being in someone’s Records. It also reminded me of how often people tell us they are afraid to give their power away by apologizing, only to find afterward it has unlocked a level of authentic power and connection they didn’t know existed.
Amazingly, the same can be true, even when we apologize for something we didn’t do, as long as our heart’s intention is one of love and compassion. One drop of manipulation or other deception sends that kind of apology south in just a word or two.
For the magic in an apology is our true heart’s intention. Period. Our desire for making amends far outweighs any “facts” of a situation.
And still, sometimes, no matter how pure our hearts, our apologies may not be accepted. For some in the radio piece, that was very, very hard.
As I write this now, my own Records are reminding me that our apologies can offer us self-forgiveness and Divine grace, regardless of the response of the recipient. We simply need to open to that grace and let it be. Like so many things in the land of apology and forgiveness, it’s a simple step, yes. And, it’s not always easy.
So, what’s the hardest apology you’ve ever given? What’s the toughest you’ve ever accepted? Is there an apology you’d love to hear? And, perhaps most importantly, is there an apology you have yet to offer that would free your heart and mind, and open you to a connection with your soul, and perhaps that of another, if only you found the courage and opportunity to utter the words?
Our Akashic Records community will be exploring these questions during our last Tuesday night of the month call next week. Care to join us?
As for those heart-felt radio stories, you can hear them here. But if you miss the light or a turn, you can’t say you weren’t forewarned!