Tonight on our monthly Akashic Gathering call we are going to ask our Records what we can learn about people who bother us — people whose behavior can present us with challenges. This is going to be interesting.
“The truth is, they may be our greatest teachers, and therefore our greatest servants,” the Records wrote when they were giving me the question for our call. Normally that’s the kind of spiritual truth they save for us to discover on these group calls.
But apparently they are not leaving that up to chance tonight. No, they want us focusing our attention on how the people who are driving us crazy are actually mirroring something within us that we don’t like.
It’s Really About Us
And then, just to drive this point home, I got a call from a dear friend about five minutes after I was given the gist of this post.
“I haven’t been in a very good mood lately,” my friend explained. “And I was thinking it was because of things other people in my life were doing. Now I realize that what was bothering me about them, is actually why I am upset with myself.”
Sometimes the Records find it important to really drive home the message, and in this case, it’s this: If a characteristic doesn’t exist within us, it won’t bother us about someone else. We might not even experience that aspect in anyone at all.
Mirroring Unfinished Spiritual Growth
We have a “negative” emotional charge about someone when they remind us of unfinished spiritual growth we desire within ourselves.
And while this is a fairly new concept for some reading these words, for others this is pretty old hat. Interestingly, this mirror is toughest on us old hatters.
Why? Often it’s because we thought we had mastered this one. We thought we’d checked this off the spiritual growth list.
And it’s very aggravating and disappointing to discover we’re not done after all.
We then we judge ourselves — often far more harshly than someone new to this concept – which explains why we might find ourselves judging the “other” with a higher level of severity we didn’t know we were capable of attaining.
Ouch. Sometimes the pain actually becomes physical.
So, now what do we do?
Well, we forgive.
We Start with Forgiveness
And we start with the toughest part first. We begin by forgiving ourselves.
Impossible you say? Well, it’s OK. Go as far as you can.
If you get to a point where you can’t completely forgive yourself, that’s a sign to start focusing forgiveness on the “other”.
And again, go as far as you can. If you can’t completely forgive the “other,” focus your forgiveness on yourself again.
Keep this up for a while, and you may find you’ve lost track of whom you’re forgiving.
That may sound silly, but in some ways, forgiveness is a little like the chicken vs. the egg. After a while, it’s hard to know which “side” comes first.
We Add Appreciation
But if you feel like you are stuck in an endless loop heading nowhere, appreciation may help you get your bearings.
That’s right, start making a list of the things you appreciate about that “other” person. And, as we’ve said before, those things can be a simple as liking their shirt.
Then, while you’re at it, make a second list of things you appreciate about yourself.
We Imitate the Divine
For it is within the frequency appreciation that we can imitate the Divine, or perhaps more accurately, connect to and live from the Divinity within us. In the words of Mr. Fred Rogers once again, “…when we look for what’s best in a person…we’re doing what God does all the time.
And in that Divine energy, eventually we heal. We heal the part of us we don’t like, and it can go away. Which then means we don’t see it in others either.
Or if perhaps we do see it, it makes us smile in compassion. We smile in the compassionate knowing that this aspect of another, or even of ourselves, is just a human foible deserving of grace and acceptance – which now lives in the space judgment once held.
And if the power of forgiveness speaks to you, I hope you will enjoy this free copy of “The Prayer of Forgiveness.” As always, I’d love to read about your experience in the comments section.
Are you curious what the Akashic Records may reveal about your life?