Left vs. right. Win or lose. He said, she said. Black or white. Yin or yang. What ever happened to shades of gray? Nuanced meaning? Collaboration? Well, the good news is that, as painful as the constant battling is, it signals that humanity is getting closer to taking an important evolutionary step.
Yes, many of us have heard this in our Akashic Records for quite a while now: Humanity is in the process of evolving from binary “either or” thinking to multi-dimensional “both and” approaches to both our challenges, and our entire way of living. And yes, this is true despite the battle over US Supreme Court nominee Judge Brett Kavanaugh.
My Records explain that the reason so many things seem so out of proportion right now is – that they are. At the risk of invoking too many clichés, we’re at the “darkest before the dawn” phase in this evolution. That’s why so many things feel so heavy, so risky, so crazy. So, so, so much more is happening than meets the eye. These out-sized conflicts are here so that collectively we can hit bottom and break open to a new view of the world that allows for many “right” answers, not just one.
Instilling Enough Fear
Not surprisingly, this major shift has many of us kicking, screaming and locking down on traditional views to prevent this change from happening. All around the world we are hearing the old guard of “the one correct way” screaming, “No! Only this way is right! And if I can’t ‘prove’ that my way is right, then I will make everything else wrong so I can be right by process of elimination. And if I instill enough fear in my arguments and projections on to ‘the other side’ then my listeners will not be able to think clearly enough to be logical and rational.”
Needless to say, it’s much easier to control these narratives if our only options fit the “either or” paradigm. The arguments get much more complicated once we look at the endless possibilities that appear when we consider “both and,” “win win,” “they said,” black, gray, and white along with yin and yang.
“Both And” is Impossible to Control
Not only do they get more complicated, “both and” arguments also become nearly impossible to control. And there in lies the rub for those who assert that control equals security, a belief that’s hardwired into many who either have been in control/dominance throughout modern history, or have learned to curry their favor.
Then, on the other side of the proverbial coin, we have those of us who came of age in the United States of the 1960s and 70s. We wonder how this could be happening at all. When you grow up in the age of civil rights, the Peace Movement, women’s rights, desegregation, free love and power to the people, the world now feels like it’s taking a giant step backward. How can this be evolution?
Well, given that the “either or” approach is archetypally male, and “both and” is archetypally female, my Records offer examples within humanity’s gender roles to help me understand. For the last however many thousands of years we’ve had traditional archetypally male vs. female approaches to life: doing vs. being, the parts vs. the whole, asserting vs. receiving and the more intense aggressive vs. passive, logical vs. intuitive, thinking vs. feeling, protection vs. support, competing or compromising vs. collaborating – this list goes on and on.
Now, let’s just look at what’s happened with society’s gender roles since, say, the 1970s (at least in the US). First we started with the traditional two possibilities of male or female that anchor either end of the spectrum. Then we added some options and included straight male, gay male, bi-sexual, gay female/lesbian, straight female. And in just the last few years, two more options appeared: transgender and non-binary. These newest additions now have broadened the spectrum such that the middle is truly a 0, truly a “neither one.”
The End of the One Correct Way
Talk about the end of “the one correct way!” Is Democratic presidential nominee Hillary Clinton “strong” enough to be President of the United States, or too much like a man? Is Republican presidential nominee and current President Donald Trump “just one of the boys” or a sexual predator for boasting about grabbing women’s genitals? And here in North Carolina, a battle ensues over who can use which restroom, especially in schools, and it spreads around the country.
At the moment we’re duking it out over whether sexual abuse accusations from at least two women disqualify Judge Brett Kavanaugh to sit on the country’s Supreme Court. No surprise, the battle seems to beget more fighting and less understanding.
“How can this be evolution?!!” I ask my Akashic Records in frustration. In retrospect I see my intense emotion blocked a direct answer. Still, I was nudged over to Facebook in case a cousin had posted a health update. No family news then, but I did see hope in something from Michele Woodward, a coach in Washington DC who’s worked in the Reagan White House and other interesting places.
Amongst just over 400 words on the Kavanaugh battle she writes this wise and compassionate “both and” balance explaining how men can forget what women never can:
“Because it was meaningless to him. And it was everything to her.”
Just a Few Words
It’s amazing how 12 words can so clearly explain something as intense as sexual abuse. But that’s the power of “both and.” Will this one post change the outcome of the debate? Probably not.
But this is how human consciousness begins to evolve. Just a few words at a time.
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