“Forgiveness is the magic that turns tragedy and trauma into growth. It does more than simply set us free. It opens us up to more. Rather than allowing us to stay small and hurt, forgiveness transforms darkness into expansion and light.”
I love our monthly Akashic Gathering calls. These were the words my Records gave me to summarize the answers I had gotten in the exercise entitled “The Magic and Mystery of Forgiveness” a few weeks ago.
First our Records reminded us of times when we forgave another under particularly challenging circumstances. Then they took us back to when we had been the ones seeking forgiveness. In both cases they showed us what might have been different in our lives had forgiveness not been granted.
A New Understanding
While revolutionary just a few years ago, the idea that offering forgiveness is distinct from condoning, and actually sets the forgiver free now is fairly broadly understood. But on that night’s call, example after example underscored the transformative and expansive powers of forgiveness.
“If I hadn’t had this horrible experience with Person X, I wouldn’t have learned Y, and I now wouldn’t be able to experience Z, which is one of the great joys of my life.”
One person after another told stories that fit this pattern as we related what our Records had told us. And once again, the shared themes opened us to important spiritual truths, which, of course, is why we do these calls.
The Forgiveness Process
Not only that, but the breadth of experiences we reported was pretty impressive. No matter what wrong was done, or whether we were the perpetrator or the receiver, the recipe for expansion and light was the same.
- Take harm of any kind, weight or volume,
- Add heart-felt, often challenging and perhaps hard-granted forgiveness,
- Surrender the outcome to your spirit, soul, higher self or whatever you call that part of you that is eternal,
- Allow and watch for signs of transformation, expansion and more light,
- Express gratitude to all concerned.
Truth be told, the Records added that fifth gratitude step just now. But as I look back, we all talked about it.
Gratitude
Every description shared contained an element of, “And if I hadn’t been through that horrible experience, this wonderful thing wouldn’t have happened.”
“You see,” my Records are reminding me, “Once you get to gratitude, you can open to and receive the expansion and the light. The gratitude is both a byproduct of the experience and a necessary ingredient.”
This wisdom certainly fits with our experience that night. We all ended up talking about how grateful we now were for the wrongs that once had pained us so, and the guilt shame from which we never thought we’d be free.
And that certainly fits my definition of mystery and magic. You too?
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Dear Nancy,
So resonant as this has been the big theme on my journey in this very moment. I am learning to use the word acceptance over forgiveness (for me, less judgement involved of self OR others) but the concept of forgiveness as you shared it is spot on. Thank you so much.
Much love!
I so agree Shenal. Acceptance is such an important part of the process. Which comes first? Acceptance or forgiveness? It’s really a chicken and egg-like dynamic. But without acceptance we often continue to resist that which we believe we have forgiven. And, as we know, as long as we resist something, we keep in in our field. Thank you!