“Wow – I had no idea this person would spread such hate!” The low frequency of the degrading statements had left me feeling punched in the gut.
That was my first reaction to a post from someone I met socially a couple of years ago who had friended me on Facebook. Then, as the election season unfolded, the posts got even harder to take.
At first I hoped I could learn something about “how the other side thinks” from this person. Maybe this will expand my understanding of the world, I thought.
And while I have learned more about some important perspectives than my regular social circle would likely have shown me, this has not been an easy education. No, it’s been rather hard-earned.
Before I read this person’s posts, I’m careful to use my HeartMath™ breathing skills to be sure I am coherent and safe from my body’s normal stress reaction to such statements. I open my Akashic Records for protection too – and to set the stage for offering forgiveness to myself and the other person, just in case.
Frankly, it’s taken a lot of energy to get to a place of acceptance of this person’s posts, and I can only claim success about 80% of the time. Accepting their point of view is rarely my biggest problem though.
For me, the real challenge is what I perceive as hatefulness in their tone. The name-calling and cheap shots just seem so vicious, and out of character for a person I otherwise find caring and thoughtful about the needs of others.
And you know what? Now I’m having the same experience with many people with whom I agree politically.
And, their hatred is even harder to witness.
Hate in Disguise
Maybe it’s because I’d like to think that people I agree with are more socially and spiritually conscious? Or is it that since I resonate with their point of view, I judge their negativity as undermining our shared cause? I don’t know yet – and it could be both.
But my Akashic Records have this to offer: “Hate is hate, no matter the subject or the target. Even when you agree with someone’s point of view, their hateful expression of it zaps your energy, unless you consciously guard against it.”
And it’s not just friends I know on Facebook. I’m also finding it hard to listen to my favorite National Public Radio political “game” show on Saturday mornings. And the same is true for recordings of a late night TV talk show host — but at least I can fast forward though his vitriol.
My Records remind me that this I know for sure: “Adding more hate to our collective consciousness is not something I want to be part of. And, my Records assure me, that is true for many who post with such negativity. They just don’t realize that is what they are doing.”
So I was happy to see this quote on Facebook this morning, written over a photo of the late poet and professor Maya Angelou: “Hate, it has caused a lot of problems in the world, but has not solved one yet.”