“While we might not change an event in the past, we can change its impact. That’s the power of forgiveness. And when we change the impact of one past event, we also change the impact of countless others.”
This message came through during an Akashic Records class this weekend. Frankly, I don’t even remember if I gave voice to it, because I wasn’t sure I understood it entirely.
And, I’m still not sure. But I do recognize that the Records are building on an earlier post on forgiveness and Changing Our Futures.
Apparently there is more to this. Here’s this morning’s addition:
Forgiveness May Also Change the Impetus for an Event
“When we forgive, we also may change the ‘need’ or the cause for another ‘past’ event. So, if you can imagine that time may be more cyclical, or more like a series of golden mean spirals, you can conceive of how forgiving the past may erase the impetus for another event when time loops or cycles around again.”
“In that respect, you can imagine how forgiveness may change both the impact and events of the ‘past’.”
So what might this look like in our 3D life?
Let’s say Jack had an abusive father who beat him when he young. When Jack was about 19, and his father tried to hit him, he punched him back. It turned into an ugly brawl, and Jack had not spoken to his father for many years.
As we might predict, Jack has abusively hit his own son. Now he is working with both a therapist and a minister, because if he doesn’t change his behavior, he will lose both his son and his wife.
Thanks to therapy and spiritual counseling, Jack is learning to forgive his father. As he does, the trauma that has lived in his body is releasing and healing. The more he forgives his father the less likely he is to hit his son.
With time and healing he becomes certain he would never do it again. It’s as if the healing of those wounds has made him even stronger in his resolve than someone who has never held the wound.
Jack also has developed compassion for his father and others who have been abused. He’s even gone so far as to reconnect with his dad, and even seek his forgiveness for the brawl.
But what might have happened if Jack had begun his forgiveness journey at age 19, the day after the brawl with his father? Would they have maintained their relationship through the years? Perhaps.
If Jack didn’t need to more deeply understand the dynamics of father/son abuse, might he have had a daughter instead of a son? Maybe he would have attracted a different soul with a different life path to parent.
Endless “What If” Scenarios
We could play the “what if” game forever with this, and virtually any other story. And interestingly, while forgiving his father at an earlier point in his life might have meant he would never have abused his son, it could also mean he would have attracted another soul for a child. It also might mean that Jack would never be inspired to develop the level of compassion he offers the world today.
Frankly, until I began writing this post, I’d basically assumed that forgiveness sooner was always “better” than even “double” the forgiveness later. Now, I’m not so sure.
Now I see that my assumption was based on my judgment that less pain is “better” for humanity. And surely earlier forgiveness means less pain over all.
But in this scenario from the Records, less pain could mean less compassion. And now I see that this isn’t mine to judge. It simply is mine to observe, and learn as I can – for me, and my own life experience.
Many thanks to Karen Carty for the use of her artwork! http://www.karencarty.com/
Are you curious what the Akashic Records may reveal about your life?